Elsewhere I have been asking for help with a word or term that may not be in existence yet:
It would be meant to describe a type of crush, except not of the romantic variety. This would be a crush you have on someone’s ideas…the way their mind works…and possibly the way they communicate this.
The word should have no sexual undertones–perhaps the object of this kind of crush is not even physically attractive to you. Perhaps you have never even seen a picture of the person to know what she or he looks like. I have heard “man-crush” and “girl crush.” To some extent these apply since the crushee and crusher (?) could both be any gender and sexual orientation. But these two terms, to me, still do not capture the deeply intellectual nature of the liking….
My lone commenter came up with “infatuation” and I added “intellectual” to this. But I am still looking for other terms.
She thinks President Obama is “smokin’ hot” but has been hesitant to say it out loud because to do so seems
(a) unseemly and disrespectful,
(b) anti-feminist and objecetifying and hypocritical,
(c) racially stereotyping,
(d) some combination of the above.
I think part of the problem with talking about President Obama’s “sexiness” (and, indeed, Michelle Obama’s as well) has to do with the multi-level nature of the attraction some people have for him. There is the physical thing, and the power thing, and the swagger or coolness thing, and yes even the Black male sexual objectification thing.
But there is also that intelligence and communication thing that I am trying to get at with my word-search.
But I am, so far, dissatisfied with the options I have come up with for a word or term that would capture this. Ideally, I would like a term to describe the phenomenon of having this kind of crush, and perhaps also a verb to describe the state of being-in-______ with such an intellectually attractive person, and perhaps a term to describe the person him- or herself.
Please. I am desperate. Any ideas?