The Old School Friday theme for the week is “If I Were a Boy Man.” (I am adapting it somewhat. And for male OSF participants, the theme was the same except substituting “girl.”)
The inspiration for this theme is apparently a Beyonce song/video by the same name. This video I had never seen before checking it out for the purposes of this assignment. It is an intriguing concept. Good looking video. Still leaves a lot of room open for interpretation.
If I were a man… Would I grant myself license to do the things that (some/many/most?) men seem to get away with because they are men? Claim my male privilege, in other words? Or should I interpret the theme differently, and take this opportunity to be the type of man I expect and want in my life? Or–perhaps go total fantasy, and become the very man of my own dreams–a man who does not and could never exist in true life?
Hmmm. Well, I think I’ll go with the “real manhood” interpretation…who I’d want to be if I were a man who wanted to be all he could be for me. (Got that?)
“Be Real Black for Me” by Donny Hathaway and Roberta Flack
Can’t go wrong with these sentiments sung by Donny and Roberta. This song chokes me up every time I hear it. It’s funny (not ha-ha funny): a song with these lyrics probably could never make it on mainstream radio today–even (especially?) mainstream “urban” radio…
“Stand By My Woman” by Lenny Kravitz
As a man I hope that I would stand by my woman–or by my man, as the case might be. Admit when I have been wrong and done wrong, and put my life on the path of real change. If I had the body and presence of Mr. Kravitz, I also might do all of these things always with my shirt off and carrying my guitar.
Just a thought.
“Ain’t No Mountain High Enough” by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell
I’ve been thinking a lot about Marvin. Probably because this week we observed the anniversary of both his birth and his death. What an incredible loss and a tragic end. Yet another aftermath of domestic violence that still goes so unspoken in our communities.
Anyway, another duet here. It is likely no surprise that two of my three songs are duets. For one, I really really really like duets–the old fashioned kind where folks collaborated and sung together, in person and where they were not trying to out-American Idol each other with competing vocals. But maybe I am saying something about “real” masculinity always containing elements of the feminine?
At any rate, Happy Old School Friday! Enjoy your weekend, genders all!
PPR_Scribe’s previous OSF posts.